Why I'm going to freeze my eggs
This one's a touchy subject but I'm not sure why.
I recently attended an egg freezing information session that was being held in Vancouver. I decided to go because it offered an informal setting so I wouldn't be nervous.
I'd thought about doing this for a while. As I approach age 30 it's become increasingly apparent to me that there's so still much more that I want to achieve. Having a kid right now would pretty much change my algorithm for life. A lot of people would probably argue with that, to which I ask, how on earth would I travel to different countries, work 70 hours a week, and still have a social life with a child?
Also, where on earth would I put this child right now? Would I put a cradle on top of my washing machine? My place is just under 600 square feet. The idea of having a child right now is absolutely ludicrous - at least for me.
I'm sure that a lot of other women can relate to me when I say that I'm career-oriented. There is a reason why you go to school for several years, why you have dreams growing up. For many of us, those dreams include sure - a child, plus so much more. And more. And more.
What really interested me about this event is the perception of this whole egg freezing thing. We plan for a lot of different scenarios in life - college, where we'll live, relationships, our careers, and much more.
So I think that family planning should be prioritized, too - whether or not you currently have a partner. It's your body and it's your future. You need to decide what it is that you want.
It's your choice.
Guys don't deal with the pressure that women do in having kids, i.e. counteracting how "their biological clock is ticking" - for the record I am tired of hearing that. There are a few different arguments that people use for NOT getting your eggs frozen - and I know because I've heard them.
Here are a few.
It's not a guarantee that you'll be able to have kids if you freeze your eggs
No, it's not a guarantee, but then again, nothing is in life. At least I can say that I tried my best.
You'll definitely have kids by age 35 and even if you don't, it's still possible afterwards
I don't know if I'll have kids by age 35, because I can't tell the future. By freezing your eggs you reduce the risks associated with having kids later on. I'm not hypothesizing this - science says so.
What if you're with a guy who disagrees with that?
Then I don't want to be with him. I have no idea as to why he'd find this to be a problem.
I do not understand why this is selfish.
You might not even have to use the eggs
No, I might not. Egg freezing is kind of like insurance. You don't know if you'll need them, but they're there in case you do.
Egg freezing (in Vancouver) can cost an upwards of seven to 10 grand. There are, however, financing plans. I guess you have to decide on where your priorities are at.
Society is just pressuring you to freeze your eggs
I don't feel pressured. I feel liberated in having control over my future.
It would be better if you just adopted instead
I don't really feel like I need to explain myself. It's really just my choice. If you want to adopt, then go adopt.
Egg freezing is a serious medical procedure
I guess you have to decide on how far you're willing to go. People have unnecessary procedures done all the time, but this procedure is necessary to some. Also...no one else's business but your own!
The marketing for egg freezing is so aggressive
Honestly I don't think it's aggressive enough because I rarely hear about it. I wish more women were educated so they'd know what their options are.
The more I read my answers to these questions, the more I realize how important it is to make decisions for yourself. You definitely should do a cost benefit analysis, but ultimately it's your choice. Anyone who acts like it's not clearly doesn't have your best interests in mind.
Anyway, I hope this post gets some people thinking. It's not easy to write about but maybe by reading it, it's easier to talk about it.